I recently heard on one of the YouTube channels that from the moment you become a mother, you feel guilty forever.
“You feel guilty about spending time with your child because at that time you are “not professionally fulfilled”. You feel guilty when you go to work or courses, spend time with yourself or your partner because you are not devoting time to your child. ”
Yes, I refer to writing. Aside from the fact that guilt is present in almost everyone’s life, it plays a unique role in the lives of the writer (and other artists)
About the child-future writer
Were you encouraged to draw in your childhood? Probably yes. After all, it is very important to develop creativity in your child. We brought more drawings, cut-outs, cut-outs, poems, stories, and our parents and teachers were delighted. It is true that their enthusiasm decreased when the work went beyond the border of the page (and the paint landed on the floor), or it did not quite agree with the order. It was even smaller when creating became a favourite activity for the child, rather than math or sports. The biggest problem started when a small aspiring writer or little painter declared that they wanted to become an artist in the future.
Don’t get me wrong, they usually had good intentions by repeating stereotypes and discouraging creation. After all, “it is impossible to earn money from books”, and “painters are only appreciated after death”. Such attempts of, at the beginning of a rather subtle, discouragement, were only the beginning. Nexus Ghostwriting is a great place for those who are looking for quality content writers.
Most of us were raised in the belief that “it is not worth investing in creating”. And even if you were or were extremely lucky and your loved ones supported e.g. writing stories or poems, you probably always felt that they would prefer you to choose a different path.
I am really far from the Freudian approach, which assumes that what happens in our childhood gives direction to our whole life. But admit it, this discouragement of ten or several decades does not raise morale, does it? In my opinion, it is from him that one of the greatest writers’ blockages is born, which is guilt.
Number 1 Writers’ block
It took me a long time to realise that deep down I thought writing was “childish stupidity.” Maybe it is a mixture of insecurity and experience, or maybe it is a condition that many budding writers suffer from. It seems that many of us don’t take ourselves… completely seriously.
We doubt – believing that it can only be a vain dream, which we cannot realize. We often abandon the path of writing in favor of “real professions” in which, admittedly, we will not fulfill ourselves, but we will earn a certain amount of money and please our loved ones. We do not consider writing a priority, treating it as a “passion” that we can only pursue in a strictly limited, infrequent, “free time”. And those “lucky” ones who will fulfill themselves indirectly through professions loosely related to creation may even subconsciously conclude that they are not doing a real job.
If you don’t see guilt as the motive here, I’m sorry, you must be blind.
Guilt – My Middle Name
What does it mean to me to be blocked? It is not a blank sheet of paper that I spend hours on. These are not tens, hundreds and thousands of words that I consider worthless and delete. You don’t even fight the thoughts that “I wish but I can’t.” Blocking is a guilt for me for choosing to write, even though “it doesn’t make sense”, “it’s a child’s dream”, “it’s not a real job”.
It is this subconscious belief that makes writers feel guilty for not writing (because they are blocked). And this breeds a vicious cycle of fighting with yourself.
My prescription? Getting to know yourself. Answer difficult questions honestly. Even when the answers are painful or embarrassing.